Confessions of a Straight Mother

comingoutjournal:

Some Heartwarming Pictures from the First Day of Marriage Equality in U.K.

Couples featured here (top to bottom, left to right):

  1. Sean Adl-Tabatabai and Sinclair Treadway
  2. Kate Barber and Melanie Elvins
  3. Andrew Wale and Neil Allard
  4. Sarah Keith and Emma Powell
  5. Kyle Emerson & Richie Wood
  6. Phil Robathan and James Preston

Click for more on BuzzFeed here.

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A video of myself and my daughter speaking about how we dealt with my son coming out. We talk about the importance of education. Take a look!!

Thank you for using my Mother’s picture.

Good day,

While I was googling me, not being vain but looking for a story on me and my advocacy to demystify mental illness (I did learn about doing that from a most wonderful source) I came across you.

Thank you for being out there and sharing your story and honoring my Mother.

With my warm regards,

C. Patrick McIlvain

Creator of The Walk for Mental Health Awareness - Houston

You are so welcome… !! I am glad to honour your mother! xx
My speech at the Brisbane Pride Gala Event - What does Pride mean to me?

Tonight I am going to talk a bit about the word Pride and what I believe it means to the LGBT community, what it means to me as a person and a mother and what it means to PFLAG. To begin with I thought I would get a definition of the word “pride”, so I went to the source of all truth – google!  I got 257M results…. Neat! I thought – that’s just a bit too much research for one speech so I went to the 2nd source of all truth – dictionary.com!  There were a five definitions of the word pride, but one that I thought was applicable for tonight was this “a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.

 

Of course the word Pride means something different to everyone and for many of you I am sure that it means something very personal – LGBT Pride is a term that talks to your ability to stand up and be proud of who you are in the face of adversity and sometimes against what you may have been taught to believe.  It is about embracing all that you are and standing tall and strong and saying to the world – it doesn’t matter what you think because I am proud of myself and who I am as a whole person.

 

As a mother when you say the word pride my first thought is of my 3 children.  I often tell them (and others) how proud I am of them. I have been reflecting on this over the past couple of days and have asked myself why..?  Why am I proud of them? There are many things, but what I am most proud of is that they are good, decent people – that they all have a strong sense of who they are as a person and that they are not afraid to be themselves.

 

I am proud of my gay son, not because he is gay, but because he has chosen to stand tall and believe in himself in a world that is not always going to be nice to him, in a world that is not yet truly inclusive of his sexuality. I am proud that he had the strength and courage to come out to his friends and family and expect that they would accept him and love him, not in spite of the fact that he is gay, but because they embrace and love every part of him. I am proud of my gay son, not because he is gay, but because he challenged me to think differently, he challenged me to educate myself, and he has made me a better person because of the person he is.

 

As the president of PFLAG Brisbane and a representative of PFLAG Australia, pride means something slightly different again.  PFLAG is primarily a support group for the parents, families and friends of those people with LGBTIQ loved ones.  Every person that comes to our meetings comes for different reasons and all are on different stages of their own journey. Some come for support, some for education and some to ask what they can do to make the world a better place for their LGBTIQ loved ones.  We embrace everyone no matter where they are on their own personal journey.  We provide a safe place to express the emotions, to ask questions and be educated and importantly to advocate for the rights of not only our LGBTIQ loved ones, but for all LGBTIQ people. I personally am proud of the work that our members do, in particular our committee members who are all volunteers but work very hard.

 

As a PFLAG Mum I am very aware that there are many LGBTIQ people that do not have parental or family support or perhaps minimal support.  I have a message for all those people “I am proud of you, PFLAG is proud of you, we will do what we can to take your family on the journey and we will keep telling you that we are proud of you until you hear it from your own family or parents, and then we will tell you again.  We are proud of you”.  It takes a huge amount of courage to stand tall against not only societal norms, but family pressure as well.  It takes unbelievable strength to continue believing in yourself and respecting yourself when the people you love are giving negative messages.  We know that we can’t replace your family, and we wouldn’t want to, but we want you to know that we will support you, that we will fight for you, that we are there for your families and friends and will continue trying to make this world a better place for you by supporting your friends and families, by educating them and the community at large and by advocating for your rights in every way that we can.

 

To my children I may just be a “daggy Mum” but I am lioness when it comes to protecting my Pride and I will not stop, PFLAG will not stop until we live in a world that not just accepts our loved ones, not even embraces them, but a world that is proud of them.

lez-bionic:

What R U having?

#PFLAG Australia video - #MarriageEquality is every familes issue!

Why Marriage Equality really needs to happen asap!

I am continually frustrated by the fact that our Politicians and religious leaders do not understand the damage that is being done by extending the Marriage Equality discussion.  Let me ask this:-

1. Do you believe that providing a safe environment for our children is important?

2. Do you believe that parenting is about loving and supporting our children?

3. Do you think violence against children by their parents, family, friends or complete strangers is acceptable in any way?

4. If you could do something to save a single childs life - would you?

Every time a politician, a celebrity, a religious leader or any other well known person says something negative or dismissive about Marriage Equality in the newspapers, on the TV, on Facebook, Twitter or any other social or online media it sends a very strong message to our LGBTIQ children.  It tells them there is something fundamentally wrong with them.  It tells them that they are not worthwhile, that they are beyond help and this contributes to the negative messages they receive from other areas of their lives. 

When a young person is struggling to come to terms with their sexual or gender identity and they have constant negative messages from their parents, their friends, their faith it does so much damage.  When every person that you love and respect in your life is telling you something - the same or similar things, how do you get past that and find the courage to believe in yourself and what you know?

Mr Abbott - next time you say that Marriage Equality is not important - know that you are telling our kids they are not important. Religious Leaders - next time you say that homosexuality is evil, know that you are telling our kids to burn in hell. Parents of ALL children - next time you make a careless comment about “those gays” ask yourself if you would say the same thing if it was your child.

LGBTIQ youth are bullied at a higher rate (80% here in QLD) they are 4 - 6 times more likely to self-harm or attempt suicide.  Every single negative or dismissive comment about Marriage Equality is a personal attack on them.  This is personal for them.  It is personal for me.  Please stop talking about Marriage Equality and get it done - for the sake of our children - ALL our children.

When a dog makes more sense than some of our leaders #awkward  #MarriageEquality

When a dog makes more sense than some of our leaders #awkward  #MarriageEquality

Your thoughts are illogical but you have the right to think them.
Penny Wong (via mcwilk)
wearitpurple:

Guess who’s wearing purple!

We love Wear It Purple!!  What will you be wearing on the 30th August??

wearitpurple:

Guess who’s wearing purple!

We love Wear It Purple!!  What will you be wearing on the 30th August??

beaconpress:

(via Slide show: Minnesota gay weddings and celebrations | MinnPost)
This morning at 12:01 same sex couples in Rhode Island and Minnesota were legally able to marry! Best wishes and congratulations to all the newlyweds out there!
Read about the relationships of fifteen different same sex couples who loved and supported one another long before marriage equality entered the political discussion in Outlaw Marriages.

beaconpress:

(via Slide show: Minnesota gay weddings and celebrations | MinnPost)

This morning at 12:01 same sex couples in Rhode Island and Minnesota were legally able to marry! Best wishes and congratulations to all the newlyweds out there!

Read about the relationships of fifteen different same sex couples who loved and supported one another long before marriage equality entered the political discussion in Outlaw Marriages.

the-love-riot-is-here:

The beauty of life you can no longer hide. ❤ #pride #loveislove #noh8 #lgbt #lgbtq #rainbow #pflag #canadianpride #ldnont #pridelondon

the-love-riot-is-here:

The beauty of life you can no longer hide. ❤ #pride #loveislove #noh8 #lgbt #lgbtq #rainbow #pflag #canadianpride #ldnont #pridelondon

goojabee:

Crosswalks in Vancouver, a city of brotherly love!

Love the rainbow crossings in Vancouver - I want to go see them in person! 

goojabee:

Crosswalks in Vancouver, a city of brotherly love!

Love the rainbow crossings in Vancouver - I want to go see them in person! 

wearitpurple:

You are loved!
Thanks PFLAG :)

From my friends at PFLAG ACT - they are awesome!  

wearitpurple:

You are loved!

Thanks PFLAG :)

From my friends at PFLAG ACT - they are awesome!